Security World

Original Security World illustration for this practical reflection. Wanting encouragement does not make you weak or inauthentic. The difficulty comes when another person’s approval becomes the only way you can make an ordinary decision. A more useful goal is to build self-respect while remaining open to information and other people’s needs. Ask what you want from the response Advice, reassurance and permission are different requests. If you need technical feedback on a draft, ask a specific question about it. If you want company during a difficult decision, say so. Naming the request makes the conversation clearer than repeatedly asking whether you are doing everything correctly. It also avoids turning another person’s response into a verdict on your entire worth. Someone may dislike a design or decline an invitation without rejecting everything about you. Choose a standard before asking for opinions For a small decision, write down the purpose and two relevant criteria. A work ...